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A Psychodynamic Understanding of Alcoholism: Part I

A Psychodynamic Understanding of Alcoholism: Part I

The deleterious effects of alcoholism are devastating; it destroys lives, families, and marriages, wrecking havoc upon every facet of a…
Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

The fear of failure is an almost universal human anxiety in the modern world. We all, at one point or…
For You Men Out There: Marriage Improves Your Health

For You Men Out There: Marriage Improves Your Health

The research is in: marriage improves the health of both sexes, but especially for men. Married men have greater longevity,…
Attachment, Couples, and Adult Relationships

Attachment, Couples, and Adult Relationships

How the “Attachment Bond” Influences Our Adult Relationships Have you ever felt strongly, deeply connected to someone for whom you…
Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

As a couples therapist, I often see spouses that fight constantly. The intensity of the arguing in some cases can…
Why Do Some Happy Newlyweds Divorce While Other Couples Stay Happily Married?

Why Do Some Happy Newlyweds Divorce While Other Couples Stay Happily Married?

Unfortunately, evidence shows that a percentage of couples who are happily married as newlyweds are still getting divorced after several…
A Psychodynamic Understanding of Alcoholism: Part I

A Psychodynamic Understanding of Alcoholism: Part I

The deleterious effects of alcoholism are devastating; it destroys lives, families, and marriages, wrecking havoc upon every facet of a…
Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

The fear of failure is an almost universal human anxiety in the modern world. We all, at one point or…
For You Men Out There: Marriage Improves Your Health

For You Men Out There: Marriage Improves Your Health

The research is in: marriage improves the health of both sexes, but especially for men. Married men have greater longevity,…
Attachment, Couples, and Adult Relationships

Attachment, Couples, and Adult Relationships

How the “Attachment Bond” Influences Our Adult Relationships Have you ever felt strongly, deeply connected to someone for whom you…
Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

As a couples therapist, I often see spouses that fight constantly. The intensity of the arguing in some cases can…
Why Do Some Happy Newlyweds Divorce While Other Couples Stay Happily Married?

Why Do Some Happy Newlyweds Divorce While Other Couples Stay Happily Married?

Unfortunately, evidence shows that a percentage of couples who are happily married as newlyweds are still getting divorced after several…
Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

The fear of failure is an almost universal human anxiety in the modern world. We all, at one point or…
How Grief Can Kill You

How Grief Can Kill You

The intense emotional pain of losing a spouse can take a terrible toll psychologically, especially in the case of couples…
The Aftermath of Penn State: How to Talk to Your Children about Sex and Sexual Abuse

The Aftermath of Penn State: How to Talk to Your Children about Sex and Sexual Abuse

How do you talk to your children about sex and avoiding dangerous people that might hurt them? At what age?…
The Misconceptions about Marriage and about Being Single

The Misconceptions about Marriage and about Being Single

There can be a lot of stigma to single life, especially in Orange County, with its family-oriented values and norms.…
How to identify the sources of stress

How to identify the sources of stress

Managing your stress begins with identifying the sources of stress in your life. Easier said that done, right? Finding out…
New Years Resolutions

New Years Resolutions

It’s that time. Again. The New Year is upon us and we look back at all the things we set…
Is Your Personality Type Healthy?

Is Your Personality Type Healthy?

Personality traits vary person-to-person; they are what make individuals unique and different. However, certain characteristics can actually determine an individual’s…
We May Be More Vulnerable to Stress in the Evening

We May Be More Vulnerable to Stress in the Evening

A new Japanese study finds that the body’s central nervous system reacts weakly and releases fewer stress hormones in response…
Argument with Spouse Can Worsen Pain in Osteoarthritis and Diabetes Patients

Argument with Spouse Can Worsen Pain in Osteoarthritis and Diabetes Patients

It is safe to say that arguing with your partner can cause massive amounts of stress in day-to-day life. However,…
You Probably Don't Know What Your Partner is Thinking

You Probably Don't Know What Your Partner is Thinking

You may think that you know your partner like the back of your hand — you share your lives with…
Parental Conflict Can Cause Lasting Emotional Damage to Kids

Parental Conflict Can Cause Lasting Emotional Damage to Kids

According to a new study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, parental conflict can cause lasting harm…
Relationships Have Major Influence on College Students’ Financial Habits

Relationships Have Major Influence on College Students’ Financial Habits

Thrown into a new setting, college students quickly learn how to balance their social and academic life. But time management…
Defense Mechanism of The Week: Sublimination

Defense Mechanism of The Week: Sublimination

The “Good” Defense Sublimination is often seen as the “good” defense in psychological and popular thinking. By definition, sublimination represents…
Defense mechanism of The Week: Introjection

Defense mechanism of The Week: Introjection

What is It? At its simplest, introjection is the process of misunderstanding the feelings that come from the outside as…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Intellectualization

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Intellectualization

Intellectualization occurs when reasoning and logic are used unconsciously to control internal conflict and emotional anxiety. People who intellectualize talk…
Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

As a couples therapist, I often see spouses that fight constantly. The intensity of the arguing in some cases can…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Projection

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Projection

Newport Beach, Orange County– What is projection?  What does it mean for someone to project his or her feelings onto…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Repression

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Repression

What is Repression?  In essence, it is motivated ignoring or forgetting for protection of the Ego.  This is the defense…
Defense Mechanism of The Week: Sublimination

Defense Mechanism of The Week: Sublimination

The “Good” Defense Sublimination is often seen as the “good” defense in psychological and popular thinking. By definition, sublimination represents…
Defense mechanism of The Week: Introjection

Defense mechanism of The Week: Introjection

What is It? At its simplest, introjection is the process of misunderstanding the feelings that come from the outside as…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Intellectualization

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Intellectualization

Intellectualization occurs when reasoning and logic are used unconsciously to control internal conflict and emotional anxiety. People who intellectualize talk…
Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

As a couples therapist, I often see spouses that fight constantly. The intensity of the arguing in some cases can…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Projection

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Projection

Newport Beach, Orange County– What is projection?  What does it mean for someone to project his or her feelings onto…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Repression

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Repression

What is Repression?  In essence, it is motivated ignoring or forgetting for protection of the Ego.  This is the defense…