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A Psychodynamic Understanding of Alcoholism: Part I

A Psychodynamic Understanding of Alcoholism: Part I

The deleterious effects of alcoholism are devastating; it destroys lives, families, and marriages, wrecking havoc upon every facet of a…
Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

The fear of failure is an almost universal human anxiety in the modern world. We all, at one point or…
For You Men Out There: Marriage Improves Your Health

For You Men Out There: Marriage Improves Your Health

The research is in: marriage improves the health of both sexes, but especially for men. Married men have greater longevity,…
Attachment, Couples, and Adult Relationships

Attachment, Couples, and Adult Relationships

How the “Attachment Bond” Influences Our Adult Relationships Have you ever felt strongly, deeply connected to someone for whom you…
Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

As a couples therapist, I often see spouses that fight constantly. The intensity of the arguing in some cases can…
Why Do Some Happy Newlyweds Divorce While Other Couples Stay Happily Married?

Why Do Some Happy Newlyweds Divorce While Other Couples Stay Happily Married?

Unfortunately, evidence shows that a percentage of couples who are happily married as newlyweds are still getting divorced after several…
A Psychodynamic Understanding of Alcoholism: Part I

A Psychodynamic Understanding of Alcoholism: Part I

The deleterious effects of alcoholism are devastating; it destroys lives, families, and marriages, wrecking havoc upon every facet of a…
Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

The fear of failure is an almost universal human anxiety in the modern world. We all, at one point or…
For You Men Out There: Marriage Improves Your Health

For You Men Out There: Marriage Improves Your Health

The research is in: marriage improves the health of both sexes, but especially for men. Married men have greater longevity,…
Attachment, Couples, and Adult Relationships

Attachment, Couples, and Adult Relationships

How the “Attachment Bond” Influences Our Adult Relationships Have you ever felt strongly, deeply connected to someone for whom you…
Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

As a couples therapist, I often see spouses that fight constantly. The intensity of the arguing in some cases can…
Why Do Some Happy Newlyweds Divorce While Other Couples Stay Happily Married?

Why Do Some Happy Newlyweds Divorce While Other Couples Stay Happily Married?

Unfortunately, evidence shows that a percentage of couples who are happily married as newlyweds are still getting divorced after several…
Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

The fear of failure is an almost universal human anxiety in the modern world. We all, at one point or…
How Grief Can Kill You

How Grief Can Kill You

The intense emotional pain of losing a spouse can take a terrible toll psychologically, especially in the case of couples…
The Aftermath of Penn State: How to Talk to Your Children about Sex and Sexual Abuse

The Aftermath of Penn State: How to Talk to Your Children about Sex and Sexual Abuse

How do you talk to your children about sex and avoiding dangerous people that might hurt them? At what age?…
The Misconceptions about Marriage and about Being Single

The Misconceptions about Marriage and about Being Single

There can be a lot of stigma to single life, especially in Orange County, with its family-oriented values and norms.…
How to identify the sources of stress

How to identify the sources of stress

Managing your stress begins with identifying the sources of stress in your life. Easier said that done, right? Finding out…
New Years Resolutions

New Years Resolutions

It’s that time. Again. The New Year is upon us and we look back at all the things we set…
Laying Off Your Partner In Tough Times May Have a Positive Impact on Your Relationship

Laying Off Your Partner In Tough Times May Have a Positive Impact on Your Relationship

If your partner experiences hardship in their life, refraining from arguments and other negative behaviors can make a enormous impact…
Parental Arguments in Front of Kids Can be Beneficial if Constructive

Parental Arguments in Front of Kids Can be Beneficial if Constructive

Few parents want their children to hear them arguing. However, research suggests parental arguments can be constructive if they are…
Strong Relationships May Reduce Risk of Military Suicides

Strong Relationships May Reduce Risk of Military Suicides

Involvement in a strong committed relationship can reduce the risk of suicide among members of the military. According to investigators from Michigan…
Less Strife Seen in Longer Marriages as Partners Mellow

Less Strife Seen in Longer Marriages as Partners Mellow

Researchers discovered the squabbling and acrimony between couples in the early and middle years of a marriage decline with age…
Can a Software Model Really Predict Risk of Depression Relapse?

Can a Software Model Really Predict Risk of Depression Relapse?

Jennifer’s Take: The following article describes an computer model that attempts to predict which individuals are likely to have recurrent…
Imaging Shows Bipolar Link to Risk-taking

Imaging Shows Bipolar Link to Risk-taking

Jennifer’s Take: Although I find this research fascinating and invaluable in understanding the brain of  individuals suffering from Bipolar Disorder…
Defense Mechanism of The Week: Sublimination

Defense Mechanism of The Week: Sublimination

The “Good” Defense Sublimination is often seen as the “good” defense in psychological and popular thinking. By definition, sublimination represents…
Defense mechanism of The Week: Introjection

Defense mechanism of The Week: Introjection

What is It? At its simplest, introjection is the process of misunderstanding the feelings that come from the outside as…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Intellectualization

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Intellectualization

Intellectualization occurs when reasoning and logic are used unconsciously to control internal conflict and emotional anxiety. People who intellectualize talk…
Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

As a couples therapist, I often see spouses that fight constantly. The intensity of the arguing in some cases can…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Projection

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Projection

Newport Beach, Orange County– What is projection?  What does it mean for someone to project his or her feelings onto…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Repression

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Repression

What is Repression?  In essence, it is motivated ignoring or forgetting for protection of the Ego.  This is the defense…
Defense Mechanism of The Week: Sublimination

Defense Mechanism of The Week: Sublimination

The “Good” Defense Sublimination is often seen as the “good” defense in psychological and popular thinking. By definition, sublimination represents…
Defense mechanism of The Week: Introjection

Defense mechanism of The Week: Introjection

What is It? At its simplest, introjection is the process of misunderstanding the feelings that come from the outside as…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Intellectualization

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Intellectualization

Intellectualization occurs when reasoning and logic are used unconsciously to control internal conflict and emotional anxiety. People who intellectualize talk…
Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

As a couples therapist, I often see spouses that fight constantly. The intensity of the arguing in some cases can…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Projection

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Projection

Newport Beach, Orange County– What is projection?  What does it mean for someone to project his or her feelings onto…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Repression

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Repression

What is Repression?  In essence, it is motivated ignoring or forgetting for protection of the Ego.  This is the defense…