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Eight Things To Do If You Want To Stay Married

Eight Things To Do If You Want To Stay Married

The following are eight fundamentals of a solid relationship. It is by no means an exhaustive list, and it does…
Why Can Certain Couples Stick it Out Over the Long-Term?

Why Can Certain Couples Stick it Out Over the Long-Term?

There are certain relational aspects in marriages that predict a relationship’s longevity- and they are not necessarily the ones that…
A Psychodynamic Understanding of Alcoholism: Part I

A Psychodynamic Understanding of Alcoholism: Part I

The deleterious effects of alcoholism are devastating; it destroys lives, families, and marriages, wrecking havoc upon every facet of a…
Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

The fear of failure is an almost universal human anxiety in the modern world. We all, at one point or…
For You Men Out There: Marriage Improves Your Health

For You Men Out There: Marriage Improves Your Health

The research is in: marriage improves the health of both sexes, but especially for men. Married men have greater longevity,…
Attachment, Couples, and Adult Relationships

Attachment, Couples, and Adult Relationships

How the “Attachment Bond” Influences Our Adult Relationships Have you ever felt strongly, deeply connected to someone for whom you…
Eight Things To Do If You Want To Stay Married

Eight Things To Do If You Want To Stay Married

The following are eight fundamentals of a solid relationship. It is by no means an exhaustive list, and it does…
Why Can Certain Couples Stick it Out Over the Long-Term?

Why Can Certain Couples Stick it Out Over the Long-Term?

There are certain relational aspects in marriages that predict a relationship’s longevity- and they are not necessarily the ones that…
A Psychodynamic Understanding of Alcoholism: Part I

A Psychodynamic Understanding of Alcoholism: Part I

The deleterious effects of alcoholism are devastating; it destroys lives, families, and marriages, wrecking havoc upon every facet of a…
Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

The fear of failure is an almost universal human anxiety in the modern world. We all, at one point or…
For You Men Out There: Marriage Improves Your Health

For You Men Out There: Marriage Improves Your Health

The research is in: marriage improves the health of both sexes, but especially for men. Married men have greater longevity,…
Attachment, Couples, and Adult Relationships

Attachment, Couples, and Adult Relationships

How the “Attachment Bond” Influences Our Adult Relationships Have you ever felt strongly, deeply connected to someone for whom you…
Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

The fear of failure is an almost universal human anxiety in the modern world. We all, at one point or…
How Grief Can Kill You

How Grief Can Kill You

The intense emotional pain of losing a spouse can take a terrible toll psychologically, especially in the case of couples…
The Aftermath of Penn State: How to Talk to Your Children about Sex and Sexual Abuse

The Aftermath of Penn State: How to Talk to Your Children about Sex and Sexual Abuse

How do you talk to your children about sex and avoiding dangerous people that might hurt them? At what age?…
The Misconceptions about Marriage and about Being Single

The Misconceptions about Marriage and about Being Single

There can be a lot of stigma to single life, especially in Orange County, with its family-oriented values and norms.…
How to identify the sources of stress

How to identify the sources of stress

Managing your stress begins with identifying the sources of stress in your life. Easier said that done, right? Finding out…
New Years Resolutions

New Years Resolutions

It’s that time. Again. The New Year is upon us and we look back at all the things we set…
Women Have Better Sex When in Love

Women Have Better Sex When in Love

Women and men contrast each other in many ways – they can be especially different when it comes to physical…
No Easy Online Answers for Divorcing Co-Parents

No Easy Online Answers for Divorcing Co-Parents

Standard education has never been tailored to the individual. A “one size fits all” method is utilized in education, which…
New Communication Strategies Help Alzheimer’s Couples

New Communication Strategies Help Alzheimer’s Couples

A new first-of-its-kind study has found that caregiver-partner communication improves among couples as they manage dementia or Alzheimer’s, but it…
Parents’ Marriage Influences their Childrens' Choices

Parents’ Marriage Influences their Childrens' Choices

New research suggests the marital expectations of millennials depend on how their parent’s marriage turned out. Daughters and sons of…
Does Marriage Increase Risk of Diabetes?

Does Marriage Increase Risk of Diabetes?

A thought-provoking Scandinavian study suggests the risk for diabetes is influenced by the home environment, and especially by your partner. Danish researchers…
Divorce More Likely When Wives Get Sick

Divorce More Likely When Wives Get Sick

As unfortunate as it is, this fact is strikingly true: divorce is six percent more likely when the wife becomes…
Defense Mechanism of The Week: Sublimination

Defense Mechanism of The Week: Sublimination

The “Good” Defense Sublimination is often seen as the “good” defense in psychological and popular thinking. By definition, sublimination represents…
Defense mechanism of The Week: Introjection

Defense mechanism of The Week: Introjection

What is It? At its simplest, introjection is the process of misunderstanding the feelings that come from the outside as…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Intellectualization

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Intellectualization

Intellectualization occurs when reasoning and logic are used unconsciously to control internal conflict and emotional anxiety. People who intellectualize talk…
Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

As a couples therapist, I often see spouses that fight constantly. The intensity of the arguing in some cases can…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Projection

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Projection

Newport Beach, Orange County– What is projection?  What does it mean for someone to project his or her feelings onto…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Repression

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Repression

What is Repression?  In essence, it is motivated ignoring or forgetting for protection of the Ego.  This is the defense…
Defense Mechanism of The Week: Sublimination

Defense Mechanism of The Week: Sublimination

The “Good” Defense Sublimination is often seen as the “good” defense in psychological and popular thinking. By definition, sublimination represents…
Defense mechanism of The Week: Introjection

Defense mechanism of The Week: Introjection

What is It? At its simplest, introjection is the process of misunderstanding the feelings that come from the outside as…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Intellectualization

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Intellectualization

Intellectualization occurs when reasoning and logic are used unconsciously to control internal conflict and emotional anxiety. People who intellectualize talk…
Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

Relationship Counseling: What is and is Not Emotional Abuse?

As a couples therapist, I often see spouses that fight constantly. The intensity of the arguing in some cases can…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Projection

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Projection

Newport Beach, Orange County– What is projection?  What does it mean for someone to project his or her feelings onto…
Defense Mechanism of the Week: Repression

Defense Mechanism of the Week: Repression

What is Repression?  In essence, it is motivated ignoring or forgetting for protection of the Ego.  This is the defense…